Day 28: Wake-up Call for Parents and Marriage Committees 

Sex is a critical topic that must be taught by parents at home and must not be overlooked by elders of faith in the household of God. There are junks of misleading and ungodly contents on the internet, and we must tell our young ones the mind of God on the issue of sex and purity. There is nothing we can do against the truth (2 Corinthians 13:8).

The family’s core value should be in accordance with the word of God in Hebrews 13:4: “Marriage should be honourable among men, bed undefiled”. The Bible makes it clear in the same verse that God will judge all who are guilty of sexual sin. Sexual sin is against God’s temple, which is supposed to be kept holy. Many claim “they own themselves, and can live as they desire.” No, You can’t live your life anyhow; you owe God the responsibility of keeping your body, which is God’s image, clean.

Many times, the church and family shift our focus away from keeping ourselves pure and will say don’t bring us shame; no pregnancy out of wedlock. Before some churches proceed to wed couples, they confirm negative pregnancy tests. I am not against this act, but instead of making sure there is no pregnancy before marriage, we should encourage our young minds to live in holiness; no sexual activities before marriage. It is possible. I am a living testimony, and I have some other people that God helped in maintaining their stand: no sex before marriage, not only ‘no pregnancy’. I believe God is always ready to help whoever can key into this mindset.

Even when no one is watching them, our youths should be able to say, like Joseph, “How will I do this wickedness and sin against God?” Our sisters should also be like Mary, who, in fulfilling the promise of God for her life, kept her virginity. We should let our children know that one of their birthrights in Christ is to be holy and to sit with Christ in heavenly places far above principalities and powers. They should not be ignorant like Esau, who sold his birthright for a morsel of bread. In love, we must let this generation know that keeping oneself pure is doable and achievable.

There are benefits to standing out for God in sexual purity. Apart from your relationship with God, it has the health benefits of preventing one from sexual-related diseases, unwanted pregnancy, abortion and all with deleterious effects. There is Joy when the family, church and individual embrace the culture of keeping themselves pure. I pray this generation will not fail God in Jesus’ name.

Mrs Tope Oladunjoye

I thought our son was too young to be indoctrinated into Barcelona followership, not knowing that a Liverpool boy in his class had won him over to Liverpool at just age 6. That was when we saw the need to start talking to them about sex and sexuality using age-appropriate methods. Unfortunately, not all parents are diligent in raising pure children. Our children will go to school with children from such laissez-faire homes. A few months before his 9th birthday, he was schooling his mum about sex postures. We nearly fainted; how did you get to know these things? They said this, and they said that, and that, and that. Imagine if he had gone into such engagements as an empty slate like he was when Liverpool was sold to him.

I long for the days when the church will wake up to her role in preparing our young people for sex. We join people in matrimony but fail to prepare them for what happens behind their closed doors. We are shy, but the enemy (and his team) remains brave. Shocking! We need Christian men and women with postgraduate qualifications in sexology to facilitate sessions in fulfilling sex life in our men’s and women’s fellowship meetings. We need such people in our marriage committees —enough of leaving children of Zion to be learning sex from Sodom.

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