Globally, TIME is one of the most used words. It is The Creator’s equal capital for every living being. As we struggle to apply ourselves to a 24-hour day, busy becomes one of the most used words. No time to “waste” time. In the end, the time-busy mismatch brings about strains to relationships & marriages. 

Many homes and relationships continue to endure hard times - in different forms. We pray for God’s intervention in those homes. Exciting family times often taper off, and default settings are restored. So, what constitutes your default settings? Until we deliberately halt a wrong narrative, we can bind Satan for 365 days, exchange “words of blessings” many times each day, and our homes continue to struggle. This Selah Series season is an excellent TIME TO REFLECT. Be brave enough to confront the most challenging questions. Be intentional in doing things differently - better. Where required, seek help. That is the way to avoid suffering shege in our homes. 

It is easy to look in the mirror and fly away; God save us, men. The brave devotes time to working on the mirror images, a major secret behind ladies’ beauty. But, you see, beauty doesn’t happen spontaneously; it takes planning. All the lofty testimonies you trust God for in your relationship or home could all use some planning. If you haven’t, the TIME TO PLAN is now. The ordeals many homes go through are due to a lack of thorough reflections/audits and poor planning. Be intentional about the progresses you aim to achieve in your home, and plan them. 

Too often, we tarry when God expects us to be racing (working) to victory. The prayer points, “happily ever after”, and fantastic fantasies must all be worked at. And some non-Christian homes key into these principles. How well are we ready to go to make our homes work? 

“…behold, I have given into thine hand Sihon the Amorite, king of Heshbon, and his land: begin to possess it, and contend with him in battle,” Deut. 2 vs 24 tells us of the TIME TO PURSUE our divinely worked out marital bliss. 

One of life’s issues that I find most challenging to understand is how people in marriages claim to love one another but practically work against one another (e.g. competition, envy). One to chase a thousand and two to put ten thousand to flight is one of the most mysterious principles ever. The Invincibles. 

Now is a good TIME TO PARTNER anew with your spouse. Let the concept of marriage (partnership) permeate all aspects of your home, not just the bedroom. Help one another to soar. Also, TIME TO PARTNER with a few families and friends who share similar faith and vision. One of the most rewarding concepts of the 21st century is networking (not just network marketing). Pray. Link up with folks. Make friends. Impact & be impacted.

What is the situation in your home? Do you find any of the above bites helpful? Will you work on them? Like life generally, marriage also happens in stages called PROCESS. Jesus went through His life’s process, including 30 years of waiting and preparing for 3.5 years of ministry. We can’t make a baby in a month by impregnating 9 women - we wait about 9 months. So, the desired changes may take a few weeks, months or years. Stay on track. And while waiting, with the end in mind, be happy for the process, celebrate your small wins, celebrate your spouse, and praise the Lord for the milestones and challenges - they are all parts of your testimonies. Marriages still work, and yours will too. 

©️ SELAH SERIES 2023