Day 16: The Bible, Romance and Doctrines

“ALL Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work”. 2 Tim 3 vs 16 - 17 (KJV)

If I were to quiz you on which book of the Bible you have found to be least cited or referenced, what would your answer be? The part of the Bible I have found to be least utilised is the Songs of Solomon. And I think the process is pretty understandable. Satan disenfranchises us by making us aim to become more spiritual than the God who gave us the Scriptures as our guide. The effects are enormous. 

Gen 4 vs 2a: “Adam slept with Eve his wife” (TMB); “Then Adam had sexual intercourse with Eve his wife” (TLB); “Adam made love to his wife Eve” (NIV). Abraham and Sarah had Isaac when they were 100 and 90, respectively. So, they were sexually active till their later lives. The Bible is so complete!!

We have countless pre-wedding counselling sessions, marriage committees and men and women groups, all doing excellent things for the kingdom. However, romance, intimacy and sex are less taught on those platforms. Many avoid it as though it is a plague. Many of our brethren come into marriage entirely clueless about sex and romance. We expect them to figure it out by themselves. We cede the godly initiative to ungodly folks. A member of the brethren once protested, “How can you say God created sex and unbelievers enjoy sex more than we children of God?” There you go! 

A friend of mine shared how an older woman (above 40 and almost 20 years married) recounted that she only started to enjoy sex very recently after my friend intervened in their marriage. Another woman, close to 50 and a mother of four, once told me that she didn’t know what good sex felt like until the past few years, sadly, from the wrong avenues. It is no secret that many men are “on the loose”, quite regrettably. Infidelity, affairs and adultery are beginning to permeate the fold, one person at a time, because of our failures and what paediatricians would call “failure to thrive”. 

Romance in some homes is in the failure-to-thrive bracket. Sex remains sex, the same concept since the days of Adam and Eve. So, you might wonder, “What’s the problem with sex now?” There is no problem whatsoever with sex. The problem is with us. Economy and trading are no longer by batter; banking has evolved from what it used to be (kolo); parenting skills and strategies have evolved; we go about phone calls today differently than our grandparents did. It’s still economy, trading, parenting and phone calls - but gone about differently. That our grandparents were missionaries is not enough reason we must remain missionaries only in the bed. So many spices are available today to ensure more presentable, nourishing and gratifying delicacies, although rice remains rice. So, we now know that romance and sex can be experienced in more dynamic and fulfilling ways. That father Abraham and mother Sarah did not know about lingerie is not enough reason a woman should lack “marketing skills” in her Eden. We will delve deeper into this tomorrow. 

Is this a call to throw away the ethos and principles that define us as children of the Most High? Are we asking for sexually explicit contents and words to be thrown around in our singles’, men’s and women’s fellowship meetings? No, not at all. However, the emphasis today is to campaign against the oversabi spirituality and the extreme pragmatism that now play out as cowardice, naivety and insensitivity and leave us shortchanged of the beautiful gift of sex, intended by God for us, His darling children, to enjoy.

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