An issue that has been a source of concern in ministry is the issue of moral failure among the ministers of the gospel. It is such an embarrassment, especially with the issue of sex scandal, such that it has become absolutely necessary for urgent steps to be taken in addressing this ugly situation.

As a step towards addressing the issue, it is important for ministers of the gospel to urgently see to how to achieve great sex life in their marriages. This is because one factor that has been fingered in the issue of sex scandal is of lack of sexual fulfillment at the home front.

It is either that the husband minister is too busy to have time for the wife, or that the General Overseer's wife is always on the move, without any consideration for the sexual satisfaction of her husband. Either way, what it portends for marriages of such ministers is the resultant marital infidelity, of the highest order. It is better imagined than experienced.

It is an infidelity that knows no bound in terms of outlook and outcome. Or how do you explain infidelity of such ministers with such persons like drivers, housemaids, church members’ children, wives and husbands? The resultant effects include veneral diseases, unwanted pregnancies, multiple abortions, broken marriages, and in the worst scenario, murder.

It is on the strength of the above that concerned persons and groups have been canvassing for more bedroom fireworks to reduce, if not to totally eliminate marital infidelity among the ministers of the gospel.

What this boils down to is the creation of great sex life in their marriages. It is this that has led me to put together what I term as great sex life package , as elucidated below.

Many marriages are operating far below great sex life levels, hence the increasing rate of marital disharmony. If it is not divorce, it is in-fighting, separation, or infidelity. The truth is that sex is the life wire in any marriage. If it is inadequate or lacking, the centre cannot hold in such a marriage.That is why it is not a surprise to the informed, the high rate of marital discord. This is mostly because great sex life is an exception in many marriages in crises.

Sex has gone beyond the conventional "lie down and lay on" approach, which makes sex boring in this changing world of today. Knowledge in every field of human endeavour is increasing, and sex is not an exception. Every couple must come to terms with this reality of great sex life, borne out of increasing knowledge of how sex act should be conducted. For any serious minded couple, sex must be with a difference. That is, it must be great, and if it must be great, the following must be packaged into it.

It must be beyond normal routine.

This means the routine of a couple removing their clothes before engaging in the act of sex is foreign to great sex. Clothes will give way, or go to different directions in the great sex act, when the fire of passion burns. Or is it not true that yam peel strands do not survive in burning fire?

Great sex is not like the track event process of "on your mark, get set, go".

It must not be by schedule.

Allotting time to sex act in marriage places a constraint on great sex life. It should be something spontaneous, rather than being regimented by time, and times per week. When a couple only have sex at a particular time of the day or on a number of time per week, the beauty is lost. Surprise is the beauty of great sex: you come when it is least expected, like a surprise birthday party. That is why early morning sex is a form of great sex: as you are waking up, you roll on each other, and set the field on fire.

It should not be in one location

Conventionally, marital sex takes place in the bedroom and on the bed or mat. Sticking only to such location will rob a marriage of great sex pleasure. Great sex takes place anywhere in the privacy of the home: bedroom, sitting room, bathroom, dining area, on the bed, table, chairs etc. The only rule is that of PRIVACY.

Mono style sex life must be avoided

The mono sex style in marriage must be done away with. The archaic missionary sex position of "wife under, husband on top" will not work for couples who desire great sex life. Multiple sex styles or positions have to be employed, or combined to achieve maximum enjoyment. Lack of such is one of the reasons why sexual infidelity has been on the increase, to handle their sex life for maximum enjoyment. When a partner is not providing the desired enjoyment, the other party looks elsewhere to make up. Is it right? No! But, we must not tempt ourselves into it. That is why we must up the sex game in the home.

Lightings, decorations, and sexy dresses at home to set the right mood

Couples should deliberately set the right mood for great sex in their marriages, by using any of the above. Wives should learn to provoke their husbands into sex by their dressing, especially in the privacy of their home and bedroom. Such will trigger the gun of the husbands for serious shots that will be right on target.

Honest feedbacks on sex life in marriage must be made regular

Couples must not pretend that all is well when it is not. Give an honest feedback, and work on how best to satisfy each other.

Credit: We thank Aunty Bosede and Uncle Segun OLA - SAMUEL for writing today's piece. They both, are Senior Pastors of Graceway Christian Centre. They oversee Marriage Enrichment Network M.E.N), a body that is committed to promoting the sanctity of the marriage institution, comprising of couples from all works of life, who are committed to making their marriage work. They are authors of several books, one of which is Enjoying Great Sex Life. They run a column in Saturday Tribune, a Nigerian newspaper, known as INTIMACY with Bosede Ola-Samuel, with the vision of promoting sexual fulfillment in marriage. And they also run conferences for couples.

A little gist.... You will be having more to digest from these amazing sex teachers. The best conference on SEX that we attended featured Aunty Bosede (fortunately for us, it was in first year of our marriage) and we think that other marriages should enjoy the opportunity too. Sit tight and be ready to up your game. It's Sunday, couples should get busy and salivate for more. This is SELAH!!

Caveat!! For our readers who are not in marriage, please can you kindly get busy with the previous posts from SELAH SERIES? Please flee fornication. Thanks

PS: So, my MTN WhatsApp number decided to crash yesterday. Apologies if you got Saturday's post so late. It also means that my back end broadcast platforms (via which I send each day's post to more than 800 contacts) has been lost. We thank God for the SELAH Series website being available at such a time as this. And, please can we rely on you to help circulate these works to other platforms? Thanks in anticipation.

Good morning and Happy Sunday.

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